I’ve noticed there’s a huge trend in bashing Valentine’s Day… especially if you’re single. Why would you hate a day about love when you’re loved by the greatest, most loving Person of all time? Here’s some practical ways to help you [love] National Love Day (aka Valentine’s Day):

1. Don’t focus on what you don’t have.

So you don’t have a boyfriend or a fiance or a husband… are you supposed to wallow in aloneness? God said “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for He hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” You’re not to covet what God has chosen to not give you (yet). Valentine’s Day and every other day of the year as long as you are single is a time to choose to be content with what God has given you. He has a great purpose for you and His timing is exactly right, so why waste even a moment stuck in the drudgery of coveting what you don’t have? 

2. Do focus on what you do have.

When is the last time you did something special for your family members, your friends, your classmates, or your co-workers?  My favorite of all favorite Valentine’s day was actually a day when I was single. I had recently broken up with my longtime boyfriend and I was a little down. My very good friend, Seth, took me and another one of our single friends out for dinner. He bought us each a rose and just let us know he appreciated us. That beautiful act of kindness and friendship was so touching and really represented more of a godly love than many of the Valentine’s gifts/dates I had on other Valentine’s days.

3. Pray for your future boyfriend/fiance/spouse.

If you’re really feeling down, why not write out a prayer to God asking Him to show love to your future love-of-your-life? This guy might be feeling lonely or down on this Valentine’s Day: what if your prayer were to help send a little love his way in preparation for you one day?

4. Perform a random act of kindness.

Galatians 5:13 – 14 tells us, “For, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” 

I heard about a friend of a friend who, feeling a bit down on Valentine’s Day, decided to buy several roses and hand them out to elderly women he met on the street. He really made these women’s day, many of them cried at the show of love, and he found out that most of these women he met were actually widows who were feeling very lonely on that day without their husbands who had passed on. Buy someone’s coffee who is standing in line behind you. Give a box of chocolate or a stuffed animal to the kid who never seems to be with friends. What greater day is there than THE love day of the year to show God’s great love through your good works to people? Who knows if this small act of love might bring them one day to Christ?

So, please my dear girl: don’t hate Valentine’s Day! There’s so much good and so much love to be had this day. 🙂

Love, Meghan