In the dictionary, the word “fragile” means “easily broken or damaged.” Your heart is like glass: it can be easily broken when it’s not treated correctly. It’s so important to be careful when you put your whole heart into someone– or anything for that matter. If it doesn’t turn out the way you want it to, it can break your heart. You give your heart to someone (not literally, but you know what I mean). Whatever they do can affect you in so many ways.

It’s like you give someone a glass cup and you tell them not to break it, but somehow they drop it and it shatters into pieces. Then they try to pick up the pieces one by one, but they drop those tiny pieces and those shatter. When we give someone our hearts and they break it, then they just keep breaking it over and over again. When someone or something shatters your heart like glass, it’s hard for us not to get down, to be sad, angry and/or even bitter. While it is horrible and while it is sad that we had to experience whatever hurt us so badly, we all have something we have to forgive and forget.

For some of us, the things that hurt us we can never fully forget, but we can put it in the back of our mind and we can let it go. Yes, the memories might be there, but with the power of God we can overcome those memories, thoughts, dreams, whatever it may be. There’s nothing that God cannot do. With God’s divine power, we can do all things when we’re doing it for His glory. 

If you’re dealing with a fragile heart, a heart that has been broken and nothing seems to be going your way, you feel like your life is spiraling out of control, you’ve become depressed, overwhelmed, and you’re so confused you don’t know what to say anymore. You have become speechless, you’re not yourself anymore, and you don’t see a light at the end of the tunnel. You have so many questions going through your mind and you don’t know if they’ll ever be answered. You can’t focus on anything else but the one thing that is causing your pain. Am I reading your mind yet? The absolute best advice I could ever give you (with me being a girl who dealt with a broken heart myself) is this: dive in deep and get lost in the Word of God. That’s the solution!

Seriously, that’s all we ever need to get over a heartbreak. Friends, family, hobbies, and whatever else may help you as well: don’t get me wrong. But ultimately to fully grow from your heartbreak, to fully move on from that person or thing that shattered your heart and walked all over it like you were nothing… Studying, memorizing, and getting close with God will set you free from all of your heartache. You will become new and whole once again.

Everything you did in the past is a learning experience. You can’t go back and change time or memories: all you can do is look at it as a growing experience and without it, you wouldn’t be the person you are today. Take a deep breath and let go of whatever if holding you back from loving yourself, from being yourself, and from living your life to the fullest.

Why does heartache happen?

My thought process was, “Why would God allow broken hearts? If God loved me so much, why would He allow something like this to happen to me? Why does God let bad things happen?” No one fully understands or knows why bad things happen. The only One Who does is the One Who created all. Some things God does is just a mystery to us. We just have to accept and one day those mysteries will be solved. We have to learn to trust God and we have to have faith in Him for these troubling times. It’s hard to have faith because of all the emotions and things pulling at us, but it’s far better to have faith than things of this world to turn to when you’re struggling.

The devil sets us up for failure and heartache, but God allows it because He has given us free will. Just like how our parents give us free will to make mistakes and learn from them, God will use your heartache for good and to help you grow into what God wants you to be. Sometimes we need some heartache here and there to get our attention; sometimes we need some pain to learn and to grow into what God has intended for us to be. We’re so blinded by the world, sometimes we just need a smack in the face to get our attention.

When we’re too focused on other things rather than what God needs us to be focused on, we will never be fully satisfied with our life. We will never be fully satisfied with ourselves. Maybe God will use some heartache or specific situations to get your attention. The things we go through now will make us into the strong, independent people we want to be in the future and, most importantly, what God wants us to be.

God’s will is not to make your life miserable. His goal is to turn you into a follower in Christ. God has better goals for you than your own goals. You will live a more successful/meaningful life when you start pursuing after God and you will never fully understand that until you start down on that road to Christ.

You’re a flower: from the tiny, little seed that you were, you will bloom into something so beautiful if properly cared for and properly nurtured. You will grow into a beautiful art. When I say nurtured and properly cared for, I am not necessarily meaning your guardian’s nurturing and caring for you properly because not all of us have that. I mean your Heavenly Father’s nurturing and caring.

The Bible is our friend, our rule book, and our guidance: through prayer and the study of God’s Word, we can all bloom into what God wants us to be. We’re all flowers waiting to begin our blooming process. One way to start our growing process is to start in the heart and that’s by guarding your fragile heart from the worldly things.

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Our post comes from Alex C. Alex is a faithful member of her youth group in Kansas and has a genuine heart for loving others. I appreciate her desire to share how fragile our hearts can be when we’re seeking satisfaction through people and things around us and how beautiful our hearts can be when we guard our hearts and seek to please our God. I hope you let Alex speak into your life about guarding those fragile hearts and growing your heart for Jesus!

Love, Meghan